Dragon Age Isabela I Dont Speak Never Gets Sex Again
Lee has been playing "Dragon Age" since the first game'due south release. She enjoys exploring and explaining the characters and the lore.
Art of Isabela.
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And so. Last year I decided to play the Dragon Age franchise again for the kickoff time in a while, and I wound upwardly writing all these articles well-nigh my favorite characters in Dragon Age ii. Two articles were about Merrill and Isabela, the romanceable female characters in the game, and how I had come to the conclusion that I loved Merrill's romance better.
But at present . . . later on romancing Merrill for some time, it has made me realize that I actually honey Isabela a lot more than, and in reality, she is a much ameliorate romance than Merrill. Dumping her for Merrill fabricated me realize what a fool I am, and now here I am, writing this commodity.
So welcome to my reeducation of the Isabela romance.
Isabela Becomes a Better Person
Beautiful fan art of Isabela.
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So back in my Isabela analysis commodity, one of the main reasons I sited for disliking Isabela'due south romance was the fact that she is really a terrible person.
If you read the comic Those Who Speak, you learn that Isabela lied about freeing those slaves. In reality, she drowned them to salvage her own selfish hibernate after nearly getting caught smuggling them. She lied to embrace information technology upwardly because she felt terrible.
I was pissed off when I found this out and decided to cease romancing Isabela. But two things about my emotional, irrational decision fabricated zero sense.
- 1. Hawke doesn't know the truth, then this shouldn't influence whether or not she romances Isabela. To permit this data influence that decision would exist meta gaming.
- 2. Why wouldn't Isabela lie about something similar that? What she did was horrendous. If she told people the truth, they would hate her and lose respect for her. She'd never have any friends, and Hawke wouldn't beloved her. And maybe she'd deserve that. Only I feel similar I'm a hypocrite for not assuasive Isabela a gamble to be a improve person subsequently writing a long commodity nigh my Dalish Warden being a murderer on a redemption arc in Dragon Age: Origins.
Because the thing about Isabela's entire arc, permit alone her romance, is that it'southward actually about helping her become a better person. And what woke me up to this (admittedly obvious) fact was the fact that Merrill never changes.
Fan art of Isabela as an admiral.
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Also, playing Dragon Age ii again recently, it suddenly clicked for me why Isabela is/was a bad person.
A lot of the time when I romance Isabela, I ordinarily allow Carver die in the Deep Roads. I acknowledge, this is partially considering I notice Isabela and Carver'south flirting in the DLCs annoying (ha), only also because playing this mode was a habit of mine for a long time.
The fact that Carver is expressionless also changes Isabela's interactions with Hawke and makes them more touching (the same actually goes for Merrill if Carver becomes a templar). When Carver dies, Isabela expresses sympathy toward Hawke about information technology.
And afterward, when Leandra (Hawke'southward mother) dies, if Carver is also dead, it changes the chat with Isabela. If Carver is dead, Hawke will say that her mother was all she had left. Isabela is very gentle and loving when she answers Hawke and fumbles to tell her that she loves her. And depending on the dialogue chosen, she volition even tell Hawke that her female parent would be very proud.
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In directly contrast, if Carver is however alive, Isabela's scene later on Leandra'southward decease is really . . . stern. The chat comes off as more than of a lecture rather than Isabela trying to condolement Hawke. She tells Hawke that she was lucky to have such a good female parent and is a lot more distant and cold while fumbling in an effort to say she loves Hawke.
A fan render of Hawke and Isabela.
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The scene made me realize (perhaps belatedly) that Isabela is selfish and sometimes brutal because of her mother and her harsh upbringing.
Isabela reveals during her first romance scene with Hawke that her mother sold her for a goat to a man in the market (her husband), after she refused to join the Qun. This story is shown again later on in the comics, with Isabela's female parent existence very cold and indifferent as she basically sells her girl like cattle.
Isabela's married man then sexually abused and objectified her, and Zevran was her savior. (So, aye, I know this is why the two of them are onetime lovers and practiced friends.)
Isabela learned at a very young age that no one loved her or cared for her, and that the just person she could depend on was herself. This is why she only cares about herself and why she's so cocky-centered and selfish.
She let the slaves drown to save herself from being hung, which is what would have happened if she'd been defenseless smuggling slaves. Also, she was sort of tricked into smuggling them in the beginning place. She had no idea the cargo was slaves until it was too late.
Knowing all this, information technology's hard to hate Isabela for being selfish and for winding up in the situation she did. I'yard not saying what she did in drowning the slaves was okay, but that it's hard to hate her knowing what a crappy start in life she got.
It'south kind of like hating Loghain and then finding out he hates Orlesians because Orlesian soldiers raped his mother and killed his father. I don't like Loghain fifty-fifty afterward knowing that, nor exercise I condone his actions. But I do sympathize him and pity him to some caste due his groundwork.
For me, the truly hateable people are the ones who but have no reason for their evil. And yes, these people are out in that location.
Challenging Isabela Is Healthy
A beautiful fan art of an older Isabela.
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What brought me to this realization was, hilariously enough, an episode of Bojack Horseman. I of the characters, Diane, has a crisis when she realizes that she's settled into a comfortable relationship where her husband never challenges her, and as a consequence, she stays the aforementioned, never growing as a person or overcoming her faults.
Diane fell into her human relationship with Mr. Peanutbutter because it was safe. She could be her flawed self and exist loved unconditionally. There'due south nothing wrong with that. But at the same fourth dimension, being married to someone who only went along with everything was stifling her potential to be the best person she could exist.
In the end, her relationship with Mr. Peanutbutter was more than most getting the unconditional dear she never got from her parents than actually being in a loving relationship. So Diane winds upward divorcing him.
My screenshot of Isabela.
This basically fabricated me realize that I was doing the same thing with Isabela, my imaginary video game girlfriend. Instead of killing Castillion, for case, I allow her take his transport. Anything to brand her happy. And during the qunari assail on Kirkwall, I gave her the relic and didn't scold her for stealing it . . .
I was a doormat, joining Isabela in her misdeeds and enabling her toxic flaws with some codependent hope that she would dearest and accept Hawke if I did . . .
And all of that is really embarrassing to admit.
Merely when I challenged Isabela by calling out her behavior, sticking to my own morals, and refusing to tolerate her bad decisions . . . Isabela learned from me and grew as a person. By the stop of Dragon Age 2, she was a improve woman, set to stand by Hawke and help her defend Kirkwall, rather than running abroad.
I'thou not saying information technology's someone's partner's chore to fix them, but if a relationship is appeasing your worst flaws rather than challenging you to exist your best . . . information technology's not a healthy relationship.
Woman vs. Child
Lovely fanart of Merrill.
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You're probably wondering how the heck Merrill is whatsoever dissimilar. Later on all, her entire arc and her romance is about Hawke either challenging her or enabling her. My Hawke ever challenged Merrill, and if you play the romance in rivalry style, Merrill will actually break the mirror and learn from her mistakes.
Then it's not so much that Merrill never changes at all. What drove me from Merrill and running back to Isabela was the fact that Merrill is a huge child and a foolish one at that.
Fanart of sad Merrill swimming in blood.
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I know I wrote a big, long article about how Merrill is an developed who looks like a child and every bit a effect, has to put up with a lot of condescending people. She pretends to be an idiot some of the time to get out of conversations she doesn't desire (with Carver in detail).
I think my problem is that Merrill is a actually annoying, borderline-pedophiliac trope that I'm really, really tired of. Merrill is essentially the girl trapped in the woman's body. She'southward older than she looks, she'southward viriginal, she seems similar an idiot but she's only one-half idiot, and she loves and adores the protagonist no thing what.
BioWare has done this way too many times. They did it with Liara and Tali from Mass Effect, and so they did it again with Merrill. It's my conventionalities that Merrill was supposed to exist a subversion and a mockery of the trope, simply it was and so poorly washed that she still comes off as but the same manifestly onetime trope.
And the more I examine this trope, the more I'chiliad disgusted past it. Why do all the elves in Dragon Historic period accept the bodies of teenage girls? That'south a rhetorical question. I know at that place's a lore reason (the elves were physically macerated over time because they lost their magic) but it'southward even so really . . . well, gross, that this is presented as something that developed gamers should find attractive.
I'm not knocking women who look younger than they are or women who have petite bodies (you all are cute) only the way it's presented in video games comes off like a perverted fet*sh.
Why should our grown-ass protagonist, who is typically close to thirty, want to be with someone who looks and acts like a teenage daughter? I mentioned in my Merrill commodity how lesbians tend to end upwards with huge age gaps because at that place aren't a lot of us, but most lesbians in their thirties would make a hard pass on dating someone who's barely twenty.
Hawke is 20-5 when the game begins and Merrill is barely xix. It just seems and then . . . wrong.
Cutesy fanart of Merrill, who looks twelve years old.
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A lot of fans have also claimed that they experience the human relationship between Hawke and Merrill is manipulative. I made some (very weak) arguments confronting this in my Merrill analysis, just if I'g completely honest with myself? Merrill's romance does experience manipulative.
When Hawke romances Anders, she winds up being emotionally abused by him, but if Hawke romances Merrill, she winds upwardly emotionally abusing Merrill. If you take the rivalmance path, Hawke can exist very verbally cruel, but even on the friend path, Hawke is an enabler, taking advantage of a vulnerable person who has no one else in the world.
Merrill relies on Hawke, emotionally, for everything.
Fanart of Isabela and Marian Hawke.
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This did non hit dwelling house for me until I idea about Isabela and how she'southward the exact opposite. Isabela is completely emotionally independent, but in such an unhealthy way, she keeps people at a distance for fear of hurting them. This is why she never says she loves Hawke until the cease of the game and why she pretends that their romance is just about sex (when in reality, she'south actually distressing if Hawke leaves her for someone else).
When I said Merrill never changes, I remember I meant emotionally. Merrill never becomes emotionally independent. If anything, she becomes more emotionally dependent on Hawke later on losing Keeper Marethari and her clan. In stark contrast, Isabela learns to let down her walls and remains independent merely in a good for you way. For this reason, her romance is more healthy and more fulfilling to the story than whatsoever other romance in the game.
I recently looked at Isabela'south tavern fight introduction scene, and I thought to myself, "Isabela is a woman, not a little girl. Why would I romance any less?"
Her Bisexuality Is Okay Too
More cute Isabela fan art.
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I made another complaints in my article, such every bit Isabela's bisexuality. I never had a trouble with her being bisexual. What I hated was the fact that she was constantly making d*ck jokes, flirting with men, or running off to hop in bed with i while she was supposed to be romancing Hawke.
I expressed my exasperation about her clinging to Zevran, and some fans felt the need to explain to me why Isabela is so shut to him. I know why Isabela and Zevran are close. That doesn't go far okay that she is trying to run off and have sex with him while she's supposed to be in love with me! And because my character is a lesbian, information technology's also f*cked up that Isabela and Zevran want to get Hawke in a threesome.
Zevran, hilariously enough, is an assassinator and he's still a amend person than Isabela. If Hawke flirts with Zevran, Zevran merely flirts dorsum if he'south single. If he's committed to the Warden, he says no.
Isabela, on the other hand, has never heard of the word "monogamy" and never stops to wonder how Hawke feels about her trotting off to bang Zevran. Information technology'south completely selfish and messed upwards . . . and also completely in-grapheme for her.
Thankfully, yous can ask Isabela non to get, and she won't. But my point still stands: Isabela is a bisexual stereotype to a T. She'due south greedy, d*ck-obsessed, and hates monogamy. This absolutely sucks for a lesbian to bargain with. A lot of bisexual women don't understand this and call lesbians "bigots" for trying to avoid the state of affairs by non dating them, but . . . information technology really, really sucks when you're a monogamous gay adult female to be treated that way.
I could write an entire essay on why, but I'll spare you.
A fan's at-home portrait of Isabela.
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All that existence said, I accept come to the determination that people are flawed, and you can either accept their flaws or motion on.
The nice matter nigh Isabela is that her worst flaws can change (her selfishness and greed, her disregard for Hawke's feelings) somewhat for the better while her trivial flaws (constantly talking about men and flirting with them in front of Hawke) can be forgiven.
I think ane thing to understand about Isabela is that, like Zevran, her flirting always serves a purpose that is not entirely sexual. I believe I touched on this in my analysis of her, and then I won't echo information technology here. But knowing that she isn't serious half the time about the men she hits on makes romancing Isabela as a lesbian a lot easier (and it makes the constant flirting a lot easier to forgive).
Loyal for Life
Fan art of Isabela and Marian Hawke.
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I think the best thing most Isabela is that once she'southward in dearest with Hawke, she is loyal for life. No more running, no more more lying, no more betrayal. Because she realizes Hawke is the best thing to e'er happen to her, and she becomes determined not to lose her.
This only becomes obvious, withal, in the DLC Mark of the Assassin, where Isabela is jealous, possessive (she threatens Talis when she flirts with Hawke), and worried out of her mind when Hawke is arrested. This is the but time in the entire game (aside from her romance arc) when she shows her existent emotions and is vulnerable. And interestingly enough, Hawke barely reacts (which is actually quite hilarious and exactly what Isabela deserves after years of yanking Hawke around by the heartstrings).
Isabela's default weapons when you first recruit her are two daggers named Heartbreaker and Backstabber (I love that the developers did that). Varric also tries to warn Hawke that she if carries on with Isabela, she volition be hurt.
It'south because anybody knows that Hawke is serious nigh Isabela and actually loves her, while Isabela is afraid to be vulnerable and in love and will injure Hawke offset before that happens.
I used to think this was an unfortunate role of the romance and I actually sort of hated that Isabela couldn't just love Hawke. This is also part of the reason why I wound up romancing open, abrupt (saying "I love you!" almost immediately), and in-a-blitz-to-love Merrill instead. Merely as the saying goes . . . fools rush in. In fact, this is the name of Isabela's personal quest in Human action I.
Marian Hawke and Isabela fan fine art.
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Now that I've played Merrill's unfortunate romance a few times, I've come to view Isabela'southward journey from closed off and afraid to open and vulnerable as very moving. She spends the entire game running from Hawke, just by the end, she winds up running to her and into her embrace. . . And then she stays!
Hawke continues to tease Isabela about betraying her in Act II, but information technology'south articulate she's non really mad and is actually very grateful that Isabela finally came around and now openly admits to loving her in return.
I used to call up it was lamentable that the romance felt and so one-sided and Hawke seemed so rejected and abased. In reality, Isabela was madly in beloved with Hawke simply merely likewise agape to show it. And her growth over the game as she learns to be open and vulnerable is ten times better than watching Merrill do stupid things with demons, possibly not learn from it, and in the end, never really change.
So that'due south why Isabela's romance is the best and is better in item than Merrill'southward.
Plus, Merrill looks similar a giraffe.
Source: https://levelskip.com/rpgs/Dragon-Age-2-2011-Isabela-is-the-Best-Romance-in-the-Game
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